Everything has become a competition, we try so hard to measure and compare everything. But can success really be measured? Can happiness be measured? Can anyone know how they are really “doing” in life? So why do we have this feeling to compete, to be “better than the other people”. Or even worse to rush and pressure ourselves to win, winning is everything, nothing else matters….
Often people feel very entitled to compare or judge everything around them, from the physical things
they can see to some things they have never seen, touched, or felt before.
But, why is it so hard to comprehend the idea that we are not here to compete, we are not here to race in life. Even though we are taught that “the winner takes it all”, how will we know who the winner is? What is even funnier is not knowing the answer to the following questions:
Who determines when does the race start?
When does it end?
Who chooses the criteria?
Eventually, everyone will realize that we do not wake up every day to compete and to be so fixated on the idea to win without taking the time to enjoy it. Some people are aware of it some are not, but because they have spent so much of their time doing it they don’t know how to stop or how to do differently.
Many of us don’t know how to stay accountable and true to ourselves without pressuring ourselves, to have a longer to-do list than my friend, to have a bigger goal than my neighbor, to win, winning is everything, nothing else matters…
Life is not only yesterday or tomorrow, but it is also now, this moment right now, as I am writing this and you are reading it.
Life is happening every second of the time, or rather time is passing by, however, one wants to express it and explain it to themselves. It is our thoughts, our emotions and feelings that make the present feel real, that makes us feel alive, not the race, not the “victory”.
Every day we have is a gift to enjoy, to explore, to feel and to be hopeful that a miracle might happen, not everything has to be planned out from A to Z. Every day, we have conquered something that we were working on so hard to do, something new that we learned that we didn’t even realize we didn’t know yesterday.
Author: Sofija S. @bossesinthemaking